Five main reasons of our Suffering

In this world, everyone has some problem someone can have family problem, someone can have a business problem, someone can have financial problem, so nobody can say I don't have problems in my life. One thing we must accept we cannot keep away ourselves away from problems as "Problem is the Part of life, but handling problem is the Art of life".

I am sharing you one short story. There was one person who was always worried about his problems and to find out the solutions he went to one Sadhu (Sage).

He told to Sadhu about all problems of his life and analyzing his problems Sadhu told to that person, "Can you do one favor for me?"

He agreed and told to Sadhu, "What I have to do?" Sadhu told, "I have around 100 camels and can you just keep watch tonight with all of them not to stand."

The man agreed and stay that night at Sadhu's place and started monitoring each and every camel so they cannot stand, but he tries one camel to sit but other stand and finally he tired and sit at one place and suddenly he saw all the camels sitting properly without even his effort.

So the next morning when Sadhu asked that person, "How was your night?" and person told his entire story of his previous night and then Sadhu asked for that person, "What did you understand about it?"

The man replied, "I got my answer, in our life, not all the problems can be solved, some problems automatically get solved without even our efforts."

So, the moral of the above story is most of the problems we take it very seriously, although it might not be so big and some problems we create from our own and always keep ourselves in pressure and anxiety and that is the main reason of our suffering.

Here we are going to see what are the five major things which gives suffering to us:

1. Perfection: First of all we must accept being a human being we are not perfect because our senses are imperfect and from imperfect senses we cannot do anything perfectly. But all the time we want everything should be perfect and if it is not then we become depressed. So, let's accept this, in my life, not something is not going to be perfect and move on.

2. Controller: We try to control everything and if something goes beyond our control we started crying. So, let's accept this, we are not the controller and something can go against us so let it go and be calm.

3. Enjoyer: We always think if I do this I get enjoyment out of it and sometimes if we don't get we get frustrated. Let's accept the truth, we are not the enjoy-er and not every time I get enjoyment from the person or objects sometimes it will give us frustration too.

4. Expectation: We expect something from others and if we don't get we get disturbed, so the problem is not in that person but in our expectation. So, Expectation bring a lot of misery in our life. So, let's do not expect anything from anyone and see how our life will be peaceful.

5. Making everybody Happy: You can't keep everybody happy, you can try, but it is not possible to make everyone happy many of the people will not accept you the way you are. So, let's understand this fact also we can try our best, but it is not in our hands to make everyone happy. And if people become unhappy we become also sad.

I hope if we follow these five points in our lives, definitely we can avoid most of the sufferings in our life.

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